BDSM

BDSM for Beginners


BDSM is an acronym and stands for: Bondage, Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism, Masochism.

BDSM can be interpreted in many ways and I think that the acronym can really only be used for introductory purposes because, as anyone who has any experience in the area will know, people’s kinks are far more complex than a set of words.
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For me, there are two important but quite different elements of BDSM: The first is sensation play which is the physical aspect; If you like sensation play you may be somewhat of a masochist though this doesn’t necessarily mean you are into extreme pain. Then there is the power exchange dynamic which is much more psychological and is where domination and submission (D/s) come into affect.

D/s can be intimate and most certainly sensual. I adore this type of play and feel in my element when someone hands over control to me, allowing me to guide them into a wonderful state of submission.

If you are a novice, a visit to my BDSM studio in Toronto may be a good place to start. In fact, one of my specialities is dealing with beginners and I even offer a Beginner’s Special for you to have the opportunity to experience a variety of things. I’ll provide you with a check list in advance to give me an idea of what you are interested in. Have no idea? Don’t worry. I will walk you through the list and during the session we can try different things.

As a beginner I want you to feel safe. You are in control as much as me, and can stop at any time. To do this I use safe words. A safe word is a pre-agreed code word or series of code words used by the submissive when they are reaching a limit or if they want the Domme to stop.

We will discuss safe words before playing a scene but in general I work with the “Green Amber Red” traffic light system. Use these three words throughout the session to let me know if you want to slow down or stop something completely.

If you are still unsure, I invite you to read through some of the testimonials my clients have sent me after our sessions. Some of which were written after their first session with me and will give you an idea of how a session might play out.

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I of course cater for and love to session with more experienced BDSM enthusiasts and I feel the longer I have known someone the deeper we can explore. This is where the more cerebral elements of BDSM come into play.

If you would like to discuss BDSM or perhaps pay a visit to my Toronto studio, please take a look through my website. Here is my Dungeon and my Services page.

Yours Wickedly,
Chastity Goddess